W. Tyler Moore, PC

How can I deal with a toxic ex?

If you have children, you must maintain a relationship with your former spouse after a divorce. This is easier said than done when your ex consistently exhibits "toxic" behaviors, which can harm you, your mental health, and your relationship with your children. While you can't change a person's actions, you can control how you choose to respond to them. The Good Men Project offers the following advice to help you along. 

While it can be difficult, try your best to remain neutral. When your ex exhibits insulting behavior or attempts to goad you into a fight, refrain from responding. If you see this behavior is having an impact on your children, engage them in conversation about the matter but stop short of laying blame on your ex or criticizing her. If your children are having a hard time sorting out their feelings, consider seeking professional counseling. This will provide a safe place for them to air their emotions without reprisal from an angry ex. 

If you believe you're the victim of parental alienation, you may need to consult with your divorce attorney. Parental alienation is the tactic of turning kids against the other parent to gain an advantage. In many cases, custody orders have clauses related to parental alienation, meaning if your ex continually badmouths you to your kids and it's affecting your relationship, it could be a matter for the court to decide. 

Finally, accept that nothing you say or do may be capable of changing your former spouse's behavior. In this case, all you can do is be the best parent possible and work to mitigate any stress that befalls your kids. Good parents get divorced all the time, but they accept that the best tactic is to keep children far away from any strife. While it's certainly frustrating when your ex behaves badly, you can't let it get in the way of your parenting. 

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information
Email Us For A Response


Start With A Case Evaluation

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

Hear From Our Clients

"Grimm Collections utilized Mr. W. Tyler Moore for a very complicated matter of litigation regarding non-payment of freight invoices to one of our clients local to the Houston area. I’ve worked with many attorneys throughout the United States on many litigation matters and the biggest deficiencies are lack of industry knowledge and poor communication/follow up.." - D.M.

Read More
  • Avvo - Rate your Lawyer. Get Free Legal Advice.
  • Avvo Clients' Choice 2012 Lawsuits & Disputes
  • Avvo Rating 10.0 Superb Top Attorney Lawsuits & Disputes
  • Avvo Top contributor 2013 Lawsuits & Disputes
  • AV Preeminent Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Ratings
  • H Texas Houston's Top Lawyers 2014
  • Lead Counsel Rated Attorney
  • Nation's Premier | NAFLA | Top Ten Ranking 2014
  • Board Certified Texas Board Of Legal Specialization Civil Trial Law Family Law