Holiday visitation questions in child custody are starting to arise. When they do, there are two factors to keep in mind. The first is "the best interest of the child" which was discussed in an earlier blog a few weeks ago. The second is the part of the Standard Possession Order dealing with "mutual agreement or specified terms for possession".
Most every possession order I've seen has a provision that "the conservators shall have possession of the child at all times mutually agreed to in advance by the parties, and in the absence of mutual agreement..."
Holidays are stressful enough without getting into an argument over holiday visitation. Keep the best interest of your child foremost in your mind if the other parent wants to tweak or do a little change to the holiday possession. Try to be relatively agreeable and keep your personal animosities out of the decision making when you talk about holiday possession. On the other hand, don't try to take undue advantage of the other parent. Keep in mind, "what goes around, comes around." You may want something from the other parent in the future. Unless there is an objectively good reason not to agree, keep the possibility open for yourself to ask a favor in the future.