When people announce they are getting a divorce, the most common response from others is something along the lines of "I hope you have a good attorney." While having an excellent family law attorney is very important as you move through your divorce, there is another type of professional support that can also make your experience less traumatic.
Many people do not consider working with a counselor during a divorce, for a variety of reasons. They may feel there is a stigma surrounding counseling and that they do not want people to see them as weak or unable to handle their situation. The truth, however, is that counseling can be a valuable asset in helping you achieve your goals in divorce.
Counseling can help you gain emotional distance from the experience of divorce. This is important because if you make decisions in an emotional state, you may come to regret them later. Another factor that comes into play is that you may be used to solving your problems on your own. In this view, seeking assistance from a counselor to help you with your emotions during the divorce can make you feel like you are unable to manage your problems, and as such, like a sort of defeat. This is not the case, however. Counseling can give you a space to vent strong emotions such as anger rather than letting them spill out in other moments where they might be less appropriate.
Counseling complements legal assistance
One of the best ways to face your divorce is to assemble a comprehensive team to assist you in all aspects of the process. Counseling is one component of the overall team, which starts with your divorce attorney. Your attorney will assist you with all the legal requirements of your divorce process, such as a mandatory mediation if the courts require it. As your attorney guides you through the legal process, your counselor can accompany you in the resulting rollercoaster of emotional experiences and decisions you are facing.
It is also important to ensure you have a support network of friends and family whom you trust and to whom you can turn when you need to speak openly and honestly without judgment. Divorce can be a traumatic process that leaves long-lasting emotional fallout, but with the right support team, you can come through the experience stronger and wiser.