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Texas Parents Anticipating Divorce Should Keep a Cool Head

The months leading up to a divorce can be a time of emotional turmoil. Couples in Houston on the brink of divorce may be very angry with each other, leading to heated arguments and rash decisions that could affect them during the divorce process and beyond, especially when it comes to child custody. There are ways, however, spouses anticipating a divorce can protect their interests through maintaining a cool head.

First, as difficult as it may be, if a couple is fighting and one spouse is making hurtful comments towards the other spouse, the other spouse does not have to react in anger and make hurtful comments as well. If a spouse takes care to act calmly and rationally even when emotions run high, this means that their comments cannot come back to bite them when it comes to making child custody decisions.

In addition, while couples anticipating divorce may be anxious to live separately, they may not want to do so until the divorce process is over, especially if they have children. Sometimes the parent who leaves the family home (and thus the children) will be at a disadvantage when it comes to child custody. Of course, in situations involving domestic violence, it may be better to leave an abusive situation.

Spouses may also want to keep a written, detailed record of what their ex says or does prior to and during the divorce process. Some information to collect may include any threating or insulting things the other spouse says, how each spouse spends money and any fights the couple may have while they are in public. This can help if the other spouse tries to falsely accuse their ex of doing something negative, especially with regards to child custody.

Moreover, it can help to try to be as responsible as possible. Do not abuse drugs or alcohol. Make sure that any bills one has, such as a mortgage or credit card bills are paid by their due dates. And, do not commit any acts of abuse. Maintaining a healthy relationship with one's children is also a good idea.

These are only a few ways parents going through a divorce can protect their interests. Divorce can be an emotional time, but one does not have one's emotions get the best of them. Acting calmly and rationally can serve a person going through a divorce well moving forward, especially when it comes to child custody.

Source: The Spruce, "Ten Tips for Fathers in Surviving the Divorce Process," Wayne Parker, Aug. 24, 2017

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