Most people in the 21st century are active on social media, at least to some degree, even if it’s a seldom-used LinkedIn account. Many more, however, are voracious posters who are active on Instagram, X (formerly Twitter) and sites like Facebook.
But if you are going through a divorce, it’s prudent to limit your use of social media sites. Learn why below.
Social media posts can be subpoenaed by the court
The first rule of social media is that there is no privacy. Your messages to others, your posts to friends-only and other online activities can all be revealed in court. This could adversely affect — or even completely tank — your divorce strategy and provide fuel to your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
Your posts can affect your children
If the two of you share children of any age, remember that they can one day read your posts. Imagine how they might feel reading your posts that trash their other parent. This can be extremely damaging to their self-esteem and create rifts in their relationship with you as well.
Knowledge is power
Everything that you put out there could be used against you. If, for example, you are seeking spousal support, posting photos from your recent Caribbean vacation could cost you. Ditto for those posts of you downing shots and dancing at the club during a contested custody battle. It’s just not worth it.
What to do instead
You don’t have to shut down your account, but you should be carefully curating any posts that you make. Stick to neutral posts about G-rated activities with the kids or comments on the weather and other mundane topics. Create no controversies online during a divorce.
Also, don’t allow tagging in other people’s posts and ask friends not to post any photos of you or updates about your situation.
By working closely with your legal team, you can avoid the pitfalls of social media and divorce.